The big lie about laws like DADT and [Arizona] Prop. 102 is that they effectively prevent gay people from taking part in venerable institutions like military service and life-long committed relationships. Of course, gay people are already everywhere, deeply woven into the fabric of mainstream society even where they’re invisible, quietly doing what needs to be done. All the laws do is to try to deprive them of human dignity while they do it.
Steve Silberman, http://blogs.plos.org/neurotribes/2011/01/10/why-cant-the-heroic-intern-who-saved-giffords-life-get-married-in-arizona/